Over the last week or two, I have been doing a lot of research on failure for a course we are about to launch. As I was researching, I was also conducting a lot of interviews. I noticed something kept coming up. Everyone felt really bad when they failed. They also mentioned that they felt they were letting people down or that others would be disappointed in them.
Why are we so adamant about reframing failure? It is not because failure is some glamorous thing that we want you to encounter more often, its because we know you will encounter it often whether you are trying to or not. If you want to achieve the level of a peak performer, mistakes and failure will come with the territory, … Read More
When emotions and feelings arise, don’t try to avoid them. Be present to where they are coming from and what stories are coming up for you. When you really lean into your feelings you can put them in their proper place and take the necessary action no matter how you feel.
Why do you do what you do? Have you ever asked yourself that question? What do you want to do in life? Why do you want to do that? Have you thought about your WHY?
“When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will be successful…”
Each time we fall, we are given an opportunity to rise up and get stronger from the experience. Without falling, we would never learn our true strength and abilities.
How do you want to be remembered? That is the question we ask people when we talk about the Legacy Principle in our program. We all have a strong drive for significance and to find our place in this world. As an athlete, often, we tie our significance and meaning into our athletic performance.
We cannot control our emotions or often times the causes of our emotions, but we can control how we choose to respond to those emotions by having a great attitude. Having a great attitude gives us the best chance to succeed. If something doesn’t go as planned, yet we respond with a great attitude, we separate ourselves from those around us who respond how they feel. Responding how you feel is easy. Responding with a great attitude is hard. That is why it takes training.
Far too often, we get caught up in the score that is on the scoreboard at the end of the game. I hate to break it to you, but I know many games where my teammates and I played about as good as we could and we still “lost”. I put lost in quotation marks, because in reality we just … Read More
In sports, we keep score. We want to know who is winning and who is losing. Keeping score motivates us to take action. We love to win and hate to lose. Our desire to keep score isn’t just related to winning and losing, we also keep scores for each player as stats. We can tell which players are winning and losing by how good or bad their individual stats are.
The problem with most of these stats is that they are results. They come at the end of a game and provide no feedback during the process or (more importantly), while practicing. Scoring points in a practice doesn’t correlate to scoring points in a game.
There are a lot of definitions of mental toughness out there. Each coach and player will have their own definition. All of them have some merit and truth to them, but most fail to acknowledge what is going on behind each of the definitions.
The definitions of mental toughness are the results of having a mentally tough mind. In this post, I seek to attach the applications of mental toughness to the underlying principles that allow for that action to occur automatically.
Mentally Tough Athletes Focus on What They Can Control